autistic trait

“That’s my biggest autistic trait–not knowing when I’m friends with someone,” my housemate said. We were at the dinner table, talking about social. “I think friendship is different when you’re housemates,” I said.  “Friendship can be like affection, reaching out, shared norms, shared language, shared values, things you do together.  But when you live with… Continue reading autistic trait

autistic timescale

I’ve been thinking about autistic timescale. It’s rare that I feel at the same timescale as anyone else.  Even other neurodivergent people.  We can neurodiverge in so many ways. Time is a huge part of life.  This autistic timescale difference causes struggle and feels like a big part of my disability. faster Often I am… Continue reading autistic timescale

religion and autism

Someone was asking on mastodon about religion and autism.  I answered about my mystical experiences.  I’ve had them ever since I can remember, without my consent.  So I didn’t feel much of a choice about religion–I needed to engage religion or at least Spirit.  It was just a matter of how. Many autistic people I… Continue reading religion and autism

autism and touch

Hello, I was excited to read this post by one of my favorite instgrammers neurodivergent_lou.  I felt very validated to hear another autistic person talk about autism and touch. https://www.instagram.com/p/Clwd8Zussfg/ Yes, there’s a stereotype that people with autism don’t like touch.  But issues with touch can play out in many ways.  In fact I love… Continue reading autism and touch

autism and sexuality

Hello, I’ve been thinking about autism and sexuality for a long time.  A friend of mine with autism mentioned she feels sorry for people who don’t have autism–because of sex.  She was saying that sensory sensitivities mean some people with autism feel sexual pleasure more intensely. Wow, yes.  I’ve been told by a few folks… Continue reading autism and sexuality

uncouth

“Can I give you some feedback?” I asked my spouse Ming.  I wanted to tell him how he had been uncouth.  “It’s negative feedback.  Two of them.” “Sure,” he said. Ming is the only person I’ve ever known who actually wants feedback about what he’s doing and how he made a mistake.  Most people seem… Continue reading uncouth