Hello, I have autism which includes sensory sensitivities, including sensitivity to smell. When my spouse and I visited Lotusland botanic garden this summer, one of the other guests on a tour was wearing perfume. I was angry because I was there to experience a place. Plants and the earth have a distinctive smell that I… Continue reading smells
Tag: disability
uncouth
“Can I give you some feedback?” I asked my spouse Ming. I wanted to tell him how he had been uncouth. “It’s negative feedback. Two of them.” “Sure,” he said. Ming is the only person I’ve ever known who actually wants feedback about what he’s doing and how he made a mistake. Most people seem… Continue reading uncouth
appropriate
Hello, do you find yourself in spaces where it’s hard to know if you’re being appropriate, stimming or doing anything different to take care of yourself? It’s hard for me to know if my ways of taking care of myself are ok. There can be unspoken rules, and the lack of clarity is confusing. If… Continue reading appropriate
autism and mental health
Hello, I’ve been thinking about autism and mental health. When I was first learning about autism as something potentially part of my life, it was from a friend who was afab and genderfluid. My friend was explaining to me how they had never been diagnosed with autism because doctors don’t know how to see autism… Continue reading autism and mental health
soldering irons
I was looking for info on soldering irons to share with a friend. She came over to help me pack for an hour (I’m moving) and asked, “What’s this thing?” “It’s a soldering iron!” I said. “What’s it do?” she asked. “It melts a little bit of metal, to join things together. It’s kind of… Continue reading soldering irons
diagnosis
I had a friend who was struggling with his needs and differences, so he was seeking diagnosis. He’d been homeless for a while, and getting on disability seemed a great idea for a source of income. Diagnosis would be part of that. Maybe he had autism–maybe he had something else. Psychiatrists and other doctors had… Continue reading diagnosis
Thunder Junction All Abilities Park
My supportive spouse Ming and I visited Thunder Junction All Abilities Park in St George, Utah. I was unprepared for how much fun I would have there and how much food for thought I would eat. Yum yum! I loved the egg shells to rest in. Ming went in an egg shell and let… Continue reading Thunder Junction All Abilities Park
disabled comedy
Hello! I watched this stand up comedy by Josh Blue, a person who has cerebral palsy. I liked the jokes about disability best. And the jokes about homelessness. Seems important to laugh about these serious concepts, to transform shame and silence into joyful insight. I had a good friend when I was young who has… Continue reading disabled comedy
example
Hello, I wanted to clarify that the posts I made about the incident in the rose garden aren’t actually about this one incident or my one life. I’m 45 years old, and my needs have been violated over and over again for 45 years, to the point of trauma and real lasting harm. The rose… Continue reading example
sensory
Hello, today I had a bad social and sensory experience at the park. My spouse Ming and I went out to the rose garden at Lorenzi Park here in Las Vegas. Wow, so many roses are blooming. We walked around to see the different kinds. It was beautiful and smelled delicious. Then a bunch of… Continue reading sensory