so you have a kid with autism

Hello, reader.  My spouse Ming has a friend whose kid was recently diagnosed with autism.  To celebrate Ming’s birthday, we were on a hike in the forest.  I mentioned how I’d had my limit, and Ming’s friend told me that it impresses him, how I know myself and can express when I’ve had enough.  He… Continue reading so you have a kid with autism

autistic timescale

I’ve been thinking about autistic timescale. It’s rare that I feel at the same timescale as anyone else.  Even other neurodivergent people.  We can neurodiverge in so many ways. Time is a huge part of life.  This autistic timescale difference causes struggle and feels like a big part of my disability. faster Often I am… Continue reading autistic timescale

religion and autism

Someone was asking on mastodon about religion and autism.  I answered about my mystical experiences.  I’ve had them ever since I can remember, without my consent.  So I didn’t feel much of a choice about religion–I needed to engage religion or at least Spirit.  It was just a matter of how. Many autistic people I… Continue reading religion and autism

autism and touch

Hello, I was excited to read this post by one of my favorite instgrammers neurodivergent_lou.  I felt very validated to hear another autistic person talk about autism and touch. Yes, there’s a stereotype that people with autism don’t like touch.  But issues with touch can play out in many ways.  In fact I love… Continue reading autism and touch

letter to my spouse

Hello, readers.  Thought you might enjoy this letter to my spouse Ming. It’s part of an email I sent him this morning. It’s about emotions in our mini-family lately, and how autism is part of the struggle. Today is my mom’s birthday, and I’m crying a lot because I miss her. Unexpressed intense grief can… Continue reading letter to my spouse

autism and sexuality

Hello, I’ve been thinking about autism and sexuality for a long time.  A friend of mine with autism mentioned she feels sorry for people who don’t have autism–because of sex.  She was saying that sensory sensitivities mean some people with autism feel sexual pleasure more intensely. Wow, yes.  I’ve been told by a few folks… Continue reading autism and sexuality

Designing for every user – Neurodiversity in the workplace

Hello, how are you doing?  My spouse Ming and I recently watched a zoom called Designing for every user – Neurodiversity in the workplace.  That bright art glass pic is a screenshot of the scientist presenter’s website.  I saw something about the free zoom on eventbright.  Sounded great. I don’t have a workplace or plan… Continue reading Designing for every user – Neurodiversity in the workplace


“Can I give you some feedback?” I asked my spouse Ming.  I wanted to tell him how he had been uncouth.  “It’s negative feedback.  Two of them.” “Sure,” he said. Ming is the only person I’ve ever known who actually wants feedback about what he’s doing and how he made a mistake.  Most people seem… Continue reading uncouth

do all autistic people love Amelia Bedelia?

Oh hey, how are you doing?  Just wondering: do all autistic people love Amelia Bedelia?  Do you know those children’s books by Peggy Parish?  The whole deal is Amelia Bedelia is very literal minded. Some say people with autism such as myself are also literal minded.  Yes, I can understand figures of speech pretty well,… Continue reading do all autistic people love Amelia Bedelia?