There are so many reasons not to go somewhere. Being in public places, at parties, in other people’s homes is a big deal. It’s vulnerable, energy draining, and potentially overwhelming. Going somewhere means so much preparation and days of recovery. Unknowns are hard, going to a new venue, and not having control over the sensory… Continue reading there are so many reasons not to go somewhere
Halloween is confusing
Halloween is confusing. I liked candy as a kid. Of all the things I was supposed to like, such as board games, movies, and sports–Halloween I sort of did like. It’s a strange holiday, but I knew what I was supposed to do and did it. I always wanted to dress up as a witch,… Continue reading Halloween is confusing
sticker
Hello, reader. I pinned a sticker to a hardware store’s bulletin board in a random town as my spouse Ming and I were traveling. The bulletin board was next to the bathrooms. I was lucky a push pin was free. I prefer not to put holes in things, but it’s ok every once in a… Continue reading sticker
what’s going to happen
Hello, other autistic people. Does it help you go out into the world, if you know what’s going to happen? My spouse Ming and I were traveling and made it up to Seattle. We wanted to visit Whidbey Island, which meant going on a ferry. Wow, we’d never put our car on a ferry. How… Continue reading what’s going to happen
neurodivergent_lou
Hello! This is a shout-out to neurodivergent_lou for making the best content about autism I have ever read–especially for and about autistic adults like me. Neurodivergent_lou is a great reason to be on Instagram. https://www.instagram.com/neurodivergent_lou Lately I’ve read on this Instagram feed about panic attack vs autistic meltdown in a way that helped me see… Continue reading neurodivergent_lou
stickers
Hello, I made some stickers pertaining to this blog, I Like Your Stims. There’s a three inch round one. And there’s a long pink bumper sticker. Very cute! They could adorn your car, water bottle, computer, backpack, forehead, spaceship, etc. Please email me if you would like one. You could donate toward my hosting and… Continue reading stickers
autistic forgiveness
This is a letter to myself about autistic forgiveness, and how I’m ok. Dear Laura-Marie, I love you unconditionally, and you matter to me. Thank you for being who you are. Your senses are good. That you feel your senses at an 8 out of 10 as baseline, while most people feel their senses at… Continue reading autistic forgiveness
autistic trait
“That’s my biggest autistic trait–not knowing when I’m friends with someone,” my housemate said. We were at the dinner table, talking about social. “I think friendship is different when you’re housemates,” I said. “Friendship can be like affection, reaching out, shared norms, shared language, shared values, things you do together. But when you live with… Continue reading autistic trait
call for resources: relationships and autism
Hello, this is a call for resources on relationships and autism. Do you know a website, book, podcast, instagram account, or other resource to help a long time neurodivergent couple who could use insight? The ways we were taught to do relationship might not work for people who have different social needs and social responses.… Continue reading call for resources: relationships and autism
poem about autism
I’ve written poetry since I was a young child, make poetry zines, and went to grad school for poetry–I earned an MFA. Poetry is a big part of my life, and a way I process reality. This morning I read a Walt Whitman poem at the recommendation of my housemate. Poetry is part of my… Continue reading poem about autism